Last week Rob and Fiona's cousin messaged me and said that she was starting a business and was looking for my help. She is becoming a travelling stylist and wants to specialize in doing hair for black kids in group homes, or foster or adoptive placements. She wanted to know if there were contacts I could point her towards to get some clients. I was happy to be asked. I think this is a GREAT idea and I will help any way I can.
I know how many hours I spent on you tube learning how to do Lissa's hair. And there are still many things I am not facile with, but I make it my business to keep learning. There are people who don't want, or perhaps can't invest that amount of time and effort into learning the hair care. This does not mean that those kids that they are caring for or parenting don't deserve to have hair they are proud of and feel well groomed.
I got right on it and N messaged me tonight that she all ready had her first client from a contact that I sent her. OK so that made me pretty happy for her. Here's what made me pretty happy for me. . . N posted on FB about her new business and how excited she was about her first new client. Someone asked her how she got started and she said . . . "I reached out to a family member."
It is not a secret that I have worked hard on first family relationships. I have written before that adoption means families grow by more than the child(ren) who are now mine. They are also sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, cousins,and those family members have a place in their lives and in mine. I love them. I care about them. We are in pretty frequent contact. It wasn't easy. All of us reached and grew past places of comfort and made new paths and connections together. We share holidays, celebrate milestones, and at the end of the day--we are family.