June 2nd Rob turned 19. I am still amazed by this. He is a smart, funny, caring and clever young man. He is light years away from the frightened 5 year old who became my son so many years ago. All my kids are different and unique individuals. Rob is the quietest, but there has developed an ease and comfort to our relationship over the years. I think he just is always going to be the person who shows how he feels instead of talking about it. For instance he doesn't write me mushy notes like some of the kids, but he is the guy who will make sure that my favorite kind of smoothie is waiting in the fridge.
He bridges young adulthood and being a beloved big brother and son with an ease and grace I didn't have at that age. He takes time with the youngers who think he could walk on water if he tried. With me, he is respectful and usually very helpful. He is gentle and patient with the limitations that Fiona has, watching twen shows without complaint that he would never EVER choose on his own.
This Sunday was the first week he has not gone to church with us as an adult, and he was working. I am proud of that,not because I am profoundly religious in the Christian sense, but because it shows it is a place where he feels welcome, where he has maintained connections, even when he out grew the Religious Ed program. I think that navigating the mysteries of becoming an adult is easier when there are a variety of trusted adults in your corner and he has that in spades at UUCW.
Rob has a summer job this year and has been a hard worker, accepting extra hours when they were offered to him. He is a hard worker and enjoys it and has not argued about putting 1/2 of each pay check in the bank for school.
He has accomplished his first year of college and is excited that this year he will actually get some time in the kitchen and it won't just be text book classes.
In many ways, Rob is my first child to really grow up. Chet is forever a child in a mans body. Able to navigate the neurotypical world well some days and not at all in others, perpetually enjoying experiences more frequently associated with a much younger teen.
Fiona too is in a similar situation. So for me,watching Rob begin to step beyond us, to find his own path is exciting, though bittersweet. But above all, I am proud of him and so very blessed that he is our son.