Mid day Friday I was reasonably sure that the meeting about Fiona's proposed bunny had gone well. I brought with me to the meeting a paper print out of the email sent to me when the group home house manager first proposed working on this. I had circled the date, which was just over a year ago. It was immediately evident until I produced the email that this was going to be a brush off meeting. However the tenor changed immediately when I showed the email and they took copies. The present house manager and the clinician both agreed that to recant on the promise would be seriously detrimental to my daughter. We brainstormed ways to meet the need of Fi to have a pet and walk around the apparent no pet policy of the home. The present house manager has a farming background and suggested an outdoor hutch. I was on board provided they helped defray the cost by making the hutch in a woodworking shop used by some of the male participants in the facility. (different house, but same overseeing agency) They were fine with that. I asked for an explicit accounting of my daughter's personal funds and am promised that I will receive this by the end of this week and that it will detail what the expenditures were. I am sure that they were FOR her. I am also sure that intentionally or inadvertantly, deposits into the bunny fund envelope were not being made as schedule dicatated. Fiona always asks staff before spending anything "this isn't from my bunny fund, is it?" and both the clinician and the new house manager admitted freely to this.
I will somehow scrape together money to replace the funds that were misspent so that Fiona would not lose this opportunity due to lack of cash. I made this clear to the team that met with me. We parted on what I thought were good terms.
Late Friday night when there would be no way to contact anyone I received an email. It was actually a forwarded email from the CFO who said it was unfortunate that the previous house manager had misrepresented the facilities policies. He sited a number of reasons why it might not be possible to have the bunny and said I would not have an answer till Monday by days end. The entire tone of his email is one of shock and like he heard this proposal for the first time.
I didn't bring EVERY email to the meeting. I brought the initial email. Here at home I have the one detailing the house manager's conversation with the CFO and exactly what this person contributed to the discussion by way of a question he had wanted answered by me. The email clearly names the CFO and details the conversation the house manager had with him as well as the resulting query the CFO had for me. I have also sent an email out to DDS informing them of the situation and the detriment that this scenario could have on Fiona's mental health and emotional stability.
Please stop playing, people.