Things have been going well for Fiona of late. She has been less violent, and more able to talk through an issue. Sadly I expect there will be some rough patches in the near future. The house manager is leaving for another position. This seems to happen regularly with the house managers in this home and I find it frustrating. I get a working relationship and just as things start to level out--communications are good, mail is properly sent to me, Fiona's needs are being met. . . bang they are on the way out. There is always a hiatus while they try to find another house manager and this is the worst of all. People covering the house rarely know the occupants well. They are often over worked, over tired and uninformed. For Fi this means there are going to be hurt feelings and outbursts. Trust me, I have been to this rodeo far too many times.
Yet if I am frustrated, I know my daughter is frightened and angry. Tonight she called me almost manically happy which is a sure sign that she is going to crash and burn behavior wise. The house manager called me shortly thereafter and said he had told the ladies today of his impending departure and that Fi was very angry and upset. I said I knew as she had all ready called and told me he was leaving. (side note she was not happy he is leaving. She is deflecting this by mentioning his departure and talking about a bunny rabbit she has been trying to acquire for about 6 months.)
I know too that for Fiona the change in preferred staff underscore the fact that their presence there is a "job." She is work to them. And while she needs to be there, and while I know in my heart that there are days and times when being with her is so challenging that it is really HARD work, this has to all feel really ugly to her.
Even though I have been through this many times, I don't know anyway that makes this any easier for her. I always feel like I am trying to help her tread water till the new manager is hired and then I can at least have a sit down and try and get a feel for their style and how to enlist the best assistance possible for Fiona. But for now, back to treading water.