Friday, May 12, 2017
Coming of Age
I'm feeling like this is a pretty emotional weekend. You could start with right now. The fact that I am in a house with no kids in it. At all. Like zero. For the first time in about 13 years. The picture above is part of the reason why. KC is away on the final part of his Coming of Age year at church. It is an overnight retreat in a state near us. Before they left for their retreat we gathered in the space above for a short ceremony to send our "kids" off. They will return as more than kids. Not adults, but having symbolically left childhood behind. On the sanctuary space you can see in the back ground the masks that they made as part of this experience. KC's is the one on the left with the blue hair. It was a very empowering experience for him to make a mask and think about what he shares with the world and what he chooses to keep hidden behind an invisible mask.
This weekend too, will be transforming for him. KC has never wanted to stray far from home. Or far from us, for that matter. As an infant he craved skin to skin contact more than any of my children. As a toddler he loved to play but wanted to have me close, and involved. As a young elementary aged child he never ever wanted to stay the night away from home. He loved having friends over but was very anxious at the thought of being away from home. Tonight, he will sleep with 14 other friends from church and trusted mentors. He is ready. I am excited for him and I was pretty dry eyed through the ceremony. Then I came home and a sweet note was pinned to our dry erase board. Written in green marker--green is always the KC color at our house--it read
Dear Ooma and Mom,
Right now I'm probably having an awesome time. But I love you and really miss you. Keep Maui happy. (his cat) Drink a small bit of wine and please send me WARM HUGS love you lots, KC
My darling, brave funny and talented son--so many warm hugs are headed your way.
While he is off, Lissa is at a sleep over at a friends house. Tomorrow I will meet her there as Karen is having a pot luck Mothers Day brunch and Lissa and Karen's two girls are helping to organize the crafts that the kids will do while we ladies chat.
Tomorrow night Rob is taking his girl friend to her prom. I can't wait for pictures! But so much. So soon. Truly one day they can't tie their shoe and the next, they fledge. They fly, they make you think they are going to crash. And then, they catch an updraft, and soar.