Fiona was here this weekend and it was all good--till it suddenly wasn't. I had no inkling of trouble brewing, she was not showing any of the physical indicators that cue me that she feels stressed. She wasn't saying anything that would give me a hint. However a very mnor thing (KC creating a new game to play with a ball while the rest of us walked a dog) set her off. She announced she had planned to play soccer. She only wanted to play soccer. We were not fair. KC was mean. She made a mistake having me her guardian and finsihed off the tirade with tears and announncing she wanted to go home.
I know that she has told me when she is calm that she does not like losing control in front of her siblings so I figured that was the root of that request. However she refused to communicate with me and stormed into the house, leaving me to explain to the staff as best I could, all that had happened.
Then I came home and spent the rest of the night off and on consoling KC who was devastated by the outburst. He and Fiona are very close and he felt blindsided and betrayed. Fiona called that night and said she was sorry, but I could still hear the anger and agitation in her voice. I told her I acceped her apology and that we would talk Monday.
I called her after work and she sounded much more herself. She wanted to know if I was mad at her. I explained that I was not angry, but that I was a little disappointed that she felt she had to run home and that we could not work on taking some space and then talking. I also said that I thought something else was bothering her because games had changed before and that had never been a problem. I asked if she was nervous about going to Dee's party next Saturday. She said that yes she was. She wanted everyone to get along. I said that I was sure we would. She wanted to know if I had ever been with all the people that would be there. I said no, but I had met a lot of them and that I was looking forward to meeting those I have ony Facebooked or emailed. Fiona's deepest desire is for all of us bio and adopted sides of her family to "blend."
I genuinely am not thinking that anything other than a good time will happen. I think she could finally see that I am sincere in that and seemed to sound more relaxed. Hopefully she will do well at her program this week and Saturday, we will be off to Dee's baby shower.