Last night I went in the dining room to say the candy trade had to end and bedtime had to commence. There was a sweet (pardon the pun) encounter with KC. All the kids had these great stacks of candy that they were putting back into their loot buckets. But he had also set aside these 3 separate smaller piles. One was a pile of 3 Musketeers bars and whopper candies. He told me those are for K because he knows she loves those so much. The second pile was of all the Butterfingers he collected. Those are going to church so he can give them to his former art teacher on Sunday. Those are apparently her fave. The last pile was for my co-worker who loves a certain kind of m and ms. "I'm such a giver" he announced happily as he trotted off to brush his teeth.
It made me laugh, but it is true. He is the most giving child I have ever met. There are frequently little notes or poems left for me on my computer table or my nightstand from him. He has two events to go to the next time Fiona comes out so he won't be here with her much. Although he loves his writing club and is excited about being invited to his friends birthday at a lazer tag place, he was very concerned that he would not have much time with Fiona. He thought about Fi before agreeing to the party invite.
I think all my kids are giving and compassionate. KC just demonstrates it a bit more often, and seems to feel emotional things a bit more keenly than the others. But I am grateful for all my little "givers." We need a lot of compassion and giving if we are to offer the best of ourselves to the world.