Today I was on FB and happened to see that Rob's brother Dee was on line. Rob had all ready left for choir but I instant messaged Dee to say hi. He answered right back and I told him I had some great pics of Fiona at her arts night and would send some over to him. He wrote back that he all ready saw them as he looked in cousin N's camera. . . because he lives with her now.
Don't get me wrong, I am so glad he is in a family instead of a "facility." In my humble opinion this is not a kid who needs the kind of 24/7 assistance and monitoring that Fiona does. But I was surprised as Cousin N did not mention any of this when we sat together and talked for a couple of hours on Thursday.
On the other hand, she might be worried that this will upset Rob. It is another instance of a sibling being placed with a relative, where he was not. Or it could be that despite my mentioning in our emails that I tried to stay in touch with Dee that she didn't realize the veracity of the statement. Or it could be that she feels guilty about fighted for their sister Krystal and then sending her down south to live with other relatives. Who knows. I refuse to believe that this was intentionally hidden though and am proceeding personally with the outlook that we were all so caught up in Fiona's night that the time and opportunity didn't come up.
Dee seemed happy in the exchange though. I said I could not believe how much cousin N's daughter has grown and he agreed and said he would definately keep in touch. I sure hope so. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to be a master weaver, trying to blend all the warps and wefts of our different relatives, our separate experiences and our shared experiences into a tapestry. Those who know me in real life, know I am not particularly gifted with fabric art so I have cause for worry here! :-)