When we talked to Fiona this week she asked if I had pictures of Crystal and Dee. I have pictures of Crystal but they are very very old. Crystal is 17 now. She is 9 in the pictures. But I think that Fiona is afraid that she is forgetting what her family looks like and I agreed to send pictures. I took Robbie's first scrapbook to Staples and got color copies made of every picture I had been able to glean of their early years. I was lucky in that their social worker had given me some pics of the kids with foster families, pictures of when they were filmed for a TV spot and I had pictures of our visits together. Then I went to a craft store and bought a small scrap book and a few embellishments. I have always felt badly that Fiona doesn't have a real memory book. Dee either for that matter. After I saw his face when he saw Rob's books (Rob is now up to 3 of them) I realized how very much he wished he had something like that. He has a small album with a few pictures and that is it. I whipped Fiona's book together tonight. I have a few pictures of extended family and I included those and wrote who they were. In most cases I have never met these people so I can't bring any stories to life with them but possibly their pictures will bring that for her. Or the pictures themself will just be a comfort. I also included pictures of how we all look now because I do want to keep her mind in the present. Her brother is a teen now, not a little 5 year old boy.
Interestingly, KC and Rob were pouring over Rob's first memory book. There is a picture in there of one of Robbie's aunts. KC piped up and asked Rob if that was "his first mother." (exact quote) I heard Rob say yes. KC was not fazed in the least. It was an incident to think about. First off, I love that KC was comfortable with first mother status and that he could ask his brother that in a way that didn't make it sound weird or awkward. I wish I did have a picture of Rob's first mother. I don't and i wonder if the aunt truly looks like her, if he didn't want to talk about it and figured a yes would shut his brother up. . . or if he doesn't remember and how that is feeling to him.